Something a few people have asked me over the last few months is when you know it’s time to try a female led relationship (FLR).
A female led relationship is when your wife/girlfriend is in charge of the relationship.
Now this typically relates to your sex life, but it can also relate to other (i.e. vanilla) aspects of your relationship.
My post here will focus primarily on the sexual aspect of your relationship…
So this post will cover:
- When to try a female led relationship, and
- How to get started (and tell your partner)
Hopefully it helps out couples out there who are contemplating this incredible lifestyle change!
Contents
1. No fun in the bedroom anymore
One of the first signs of trouble in a relationship (at least in my experience), is lack of fun in the bedroom.
And this isn’t a sudden thing…usually it comes after a sustained period of poor sexual performance by both partners.
And sometimes it has nothing to do with the couples at all.
I mean you can only do the same sex positions over and over again for so long with a person before it starts to get boring.
And eventually things “lose” the spark.
But it doesn’t have to be like that.
When you open yourself up to the world of a wife led marriage, there’s so many things you can do and fetishes to explore like:
- Foot fetish
- Cuckolding
- Chastity
- Ballbusting/CBT
- Whipping
- Nipple play
- Bondage
- ….and so much more!
So if you see things “just aren’t like they used to be”, then maybe it’s time to give the FLR a spin!
2. When you want to feel confident
This one is for the women out there…but if you want to feel more confident about yourself (and not just sexually), then it may be time to give the FLR a try.
Dominating a man – whether it be financially, emotionally, or physically – is a big thrill…especially when he hands over total control.
There’s nothing quite like being in control of someone like that.
It does wonders for not only your sexual drive, but also your confidence.
You’ll start to notice yourself being more assertive in your regular life, which is a good thing!
So if you want more confidence turn your husband/boyfriend into your bitch!
3. When you want to relive stress
This one is for all the men out there…
As a man, you’re taught to be “macho” all the time
…at least that’s what society says.
And if you’re in a position of power at work say like a manager or something, then you’re used to giving out the orders.
As someone who as been there, it can get boring and quite stressful after a while.
Everyone wants to know your opinion before they do something and it just gets…well annoying!
So if you’re in that situation, then you need a way to relieve some of that control and get that stress off your shoulders.
And the best way to do that is to give up control to someone…to fully submit to a woman and follow her bidding!
And who better to submit to than your wife?
Having “the talk”
Having the talk with your partner is probably a little weird at first
I mean how do you tell someone you want to totally dominate him in the bedroom? Or how do you tell someone you want to submit fully?
So here are some tips:
The first tip is to be open. Communication is obviously important so be clear about what you’re not satisfied with in your current sex life/relationship.
The second thing is not to be embarrassed to ask for what you want.
If you have a big time foot fetish and want to be trampled on by your wife/girlfriend, then don’t be afraid to ask.
You only get what you ask for (unless it’s to be let out of chastity), so don’t be afraid to share some of your fantasies.
Finally, if he/she says no, don’t harp on the matter constantly.
They may be shocked or hesitant at first so you don’t want to keep pestering them by bringing the topic back up.
Bring it up once in a while and take it slowly from there.
How to get started?
In my experience, your partner will generally be hesitant when trying a FLR for the first time, so it’s best to ease into things in three stages…
1. Hesitation
This is the first stage of your FLR
In general, your lady will probably be hesitant to take control especially if you have been leading for most of your relationship.
In this stage of your FLR, it’s best to try experimenting around with more common fetishes and games like:
- Foot fetish
- Tease and denial
- Edging
- …etc
2. Acceptance
After a while, your wife/girlfriend will naturally get used to being in charge
And this is the perfect time to bring up your more “unique” fetishes like chastity or ballbusting.
And it’s also a perfect time to experiment around with other fetishes as well to see what you both enjoy.
3. Total control
This is the final stage of most FLRs…where you give up TOTAL control to your wife.
She decides on pretty much everything and it’s your job to make her happy.
This is also a great point in the relationship to try more kinky things such as cuckolding…
When To Try A Female Led Relationship – Final Thoughts
Overall, transitioning your vanilla relationship to a FLR is probably one of the most exciting things you’ll ever do in a relationship.
It opens up your sex life to a new world of fun and kink that will never be matched.
So don’t be afraid to steer your relationship in this direction 🙂