7 Ways Cuckolding Can Ruin Your Relationship

Wait…cuckolding can ruin your relationship?

One thing that a lot of men don’t think about when it comes to cuckolding is how it can ruin their relationship.

Usually they are all hopped up on hormones when thinking about their deepest and darkest cuckold fantasies.

However, like any relationship, cuckolding CAN end badly if you aren’t careful and don’t communicate properly with your partner.

Over the years I’ve noticed one (or more) of these factors present when cuckold relationships fail…

So if you’re interested in building a lasting and long and loving cuckold relationship with your partner, be sure to read this full blog post!

1. Not understanding it enough

One thing that can destroy cuckold relationships is not really understand what cuckolding is.

Some couples have a very general idea of what cuckolding is or maybe they Googled a few things and that’s it.

This is a very dangerous slope because it can lead to misunderstandings. You have to make sure you both understand what cuckolding is.

For example, one thing many couples think cuckolding is just watching your wife fuck another guy and jacking off.

But that’s actually voyeurism.

BUT that’s not to say voyeurism has no place in a cuckold marriage – as it does!

Further, cuckolding fundamentally changes the dynamic of your relationship and few realize this when they engage in the activity.

Most think it’s just a “one time” thing or something that happens in the bedroom.

Not all couples have a “cuckold lifestyle“, but it really does change your marriage from its foundation.

Finally, cuckolding also requires a lot of work (emotionally and physically) from both partners. So if you aren’t going to put in the work, it’s not going to work out.

You’d be better off just watching cuckold porn or reading erotica in that regard.

2. Not establishing boundaries and roles

The other thing that destroys a lot of cuckold relationships is not establishing boundaries.

What do I mean by this? Well, I mean you don’t have any rules for your relationship.

Let’s start off with the big one: the bull selection.

How is it decided in the relationship about who your wife sleeps with?

Do you have to mutually decide together? Or does she pick and you just have to go along with it?

Is she allowed to flirt with anyone? Or only when you are around?

Further, what happens in the bedroom? Are you two still having sex? If so, how often?

Those are the questions you need to ask each other.

There are many different types of cuckold relationships. And no one (except yourselves) can decide on what you want.

As a result, you have to be clear about the end game and what you are after, otherwise it can cause confusion among partners.

One of the things that kills a cuckold relationship is not understanding your roles. So when one partner does something that seems to “violate” another person’s trust it can feel like a damaging thing!

As a result, it is super important to spell these things out clearly so everyone understands what is going on.

3. She’s not into it

Another thing that can kill a cuckold relationship is if your wife isn’t into it.

This is usually when you push your wife into the lifestyle when she isn’t ready.

Often times, women will do something just because their partners like it (same thing for men – doing things to please their wives)

However, if she isn’t really into it, then the relationship will surely fall apart.

Now, one thing that some women go through when it comes to cuckolding is feeling like a “slut” or feeling like she’s breaking her marriage.

This can be a big thing if she comes from a very religious background.

The best advice I have for this situation is to be patient and don’t push her. Often guys will push their wives to be a hotwife even when they aren’t emotionally ready.

As a result, it’s always best to let her come to terms on her on with regards to how far she wants to take things.

4. No communication between parties

Now if you’ve been following me for a while, you’ll often hear me say communication is the foundation for a wife led marriage.

And that is 100% true!

A cuckold relationship is a VERY complicated and non-traditional marriage.

As a result, it’s super important to always talk about things going on in your marriage.

Do not be afraid to speak up. And DO NOT make fun or poke fun of your partner when they bring something up.

As a couple in a cuckold marriage you should always discuss all of the kinky events in your lives.

For example, if you went on a date with a new guy, discuss it in the bedroom.

What did you like about the experience? What did you not like?

Don’t put things off because they are uncomfortable or weird to discuss.

If something is bothering you bring it up or if something isn’t working the way you thought it was, bring it up.

If a bull isn’t working, bring it up so you can discuss it!

Most things can be solved if you just brought it up with your partner.

Even though cuckolding is a form of a wife led marriage, the relationship still needs to work for BOTH partners.

5. Not playing with good partners

Another thing that can kill a cuckold marriage is not finding the right bull.

A bull is kind of like a part of your sex life now, so you’ll want to find someone that you both have chemistry with.

Obviously the bull should be someone your wife is attracted to.

But he should also be discrete if that’s what you want in your relationship (i.e. if you don’t want people in your personal life knowing about how you spend your weekends).

He should also be respectful of things and understand that a couple is allowing him to share in their sex life. He understands that he’s just there for her sexual gratification.

Picking the wrong bull can leave a sour taste in your mouth.

6. Not expressing love

Another thing that can kill a cuckold relationship is not expressing affection to one another.

And this can develop in a few ways.

One way in which it can develop is if you don’t have sex anymore. Now this can just be a natural progression of your cuckold marriage.

Some wives don’t have sex with their husbands anymore. Now that is perfectly okay, if it’s something you have discussed before.

But if it’s not, you can see how it could have an impact on a guy’s mental health.

Even more importantly is displaying affection for each other – you know saying your “I Love Yous”

This also includes holding hands, kissing, giving flowers to your wife (along with other gifts), etc.

Just because she’s been with another man doesn’t mean you get to stop the romance.

Sometimes your partner may need aftercare after an intense cuckold experience. If that’s the case, be sure to speak up!

7. Going stale

Another thing that can often plague a cuckold relationship is to much fetish fun.

After all, too much of a good thing can actually be a bad thing.

One thing that can be bad is just too much kink in your life. Your sex life revolves around one thing and it can become a little toxic.

As a result, it’s important to take time off and do vanilla things.

I’m a big fan of having date night once every 2 weeks or some other regular interval.

It allows you to just be yourselves and not worry about doing anything too kinky.

7 Ways Cuckolding Can Ruin Your Relationship – Final Thoughts

Overall, cuckolding isn’t all fun and games.

It is a very different type of relationship/marriage as a result, it requires work on both partner’s parts.

Otherwise, cuckolding can ruin your relationship (and marriage).

Readers, think I missed anything in this post? If so, let me know in the comments!