Femdom Guidelines for Submissives: 9 Rules Of Serving Women

Being a good submissive isn’t as simple as “doing whatever she says.”

In a female led relationship (FLR), it is important to do your best to please and satisfy your partner/dominant.

As in life, it really is the “little things” that matter.

Things like your attitude/energy, behavior, etc. A lot of time and energy is needed to cultivate a true dom/sub relationship.

And as the sub in the relationship, it is up to you to put in your best effort.

So here are 9 femdom guidelines for submissives….

1. Obedience is important

Obviously obedience is REALLY important in a femdom relationship. So this is obviously something that needs to be discussed.

It’s simple: obey your wife/partner/dominatrix.

If she tells you to lick the soles of her dirty boots, you will do it.

If she tells you to put on the chastity cage, you will do it!

Her word is your law. Do everything you can to please her and you’ll experience the bliss of power control.

Now, there is a big difference between blindly following someone and being loyal/obedient.

If you don’t agree with something (i.e. a fetish or a femdom scenario) speak up. Let her know your concerns.

After all, a good dom/sub relationship is built off communication!

2. Body hygiene is sexy

Serving as a slave/servant to a woman is a great privilege. But that doesn’t mean you don’t have to take care of yourself.

A well presented sub is a good sub.

What does this mean?

It means you will shave regularly – not only facial hair, but pubic hair as well.

Nothing is more repulsive than a man who never shaves. You are not a monkey after all!

Another thing that is super important is being clean for your partner. This means showering regularly and getting rid of bodily odors.

If you are a smoker, get some cologne/deodorant and shower before you start serving her.

A slave who doesn’t even groom and take care of himself has no place serving a woman!

3. She is always right

Rule number 1: She’s always right

Rule number 2: Don’t forget rule number 1!

When you are in a female led relationship, the woman is always right! That’s why she leads…

Learn to accept that.

Do not talk back when she gives you an order or tell you something.

Not only is talking back very disrespectful, but it is just plain wrong!

Her opinions are fact. You are there to serve her and do her bidding.

4. Be open to new things…

Part of being a good submissive is a willingness to try new things…

In fact, the beauty of the kink world is exploring new fetishes and activities with your partner. After all, no one likes to do the same thing over and over and over again!

So if you want to be a good sub, have an open mind. You don’t have to like everything, but be willing to give it a try at the very least.

Trust me, opening your mind (and body haha) like this will truly be thrilling.

Besides…being spontaneous and trying new things is really sexy. And who knows…you may find out that you like something new!

Also, just because you are a sub doesn’t mean you can’t take a little initiative. If you want to try something new, bring it up and discuss it with her.

5. Her happiness comes before your own

Part of being a great submissive is putting her happiness before yours…to serve her and take care of all her needs.

However, it should be noted that you aren’t sacrificing her happiness for yours.

Instead, they should be one and the same. When you reach true “sub space” you will experience this (especially when locked in chastity!).

When you are submissive and give everything to her, her happiness and her needs become your own.

It’s hard to describe if you haven’t been in a female led relationship before, but it’s a beautiful thing.

The tingling sensation of happiness you get when you see the smile on her face after serving her all day and night. You feel happiness when she gets what she wants.

You feel joy just being around her.

As a sub, true happiness comes from serving her. It’s really the best thing in the world!

6. No masturbating or cumming without permission

Total power exchange is what really makes a FLR a wonderful thing. There’s nothing like it – trust me!

I think that’s what makes a dom/sub relationship so exciting. It’s oddly “freeing” giving yourself up to someone.

One of the things you will soon realize with total power exchange is she will decide when you cum. In fact, she will decide when/if you will even stroke!

In fact, you would ideally be under lock and key in chastity – which will make the relationship even more fun.

Submit yourself to her fully and you’ll receive the benefits of a FLR.

Learn to take a back seat in your sex life. She is in charge of your “manhood” from now on…

7. Accept all punishments and rewards

As a sub, you will inevitably be rewarded or punished depending on your behavior.

If your partner decides that you are worthy of a reward, you will not beg for more. After all, it is unwise to bite the hand that feeds you!

So if she wants to give you a ruined orgasm as a “reward”, you will gladly accept it!

Also, if she wants to punish you for whatever reason, you will not complain at all! As long as the punishment is reasonable and not going over a limit that you previously discussed, it is fair game.

Accept the punishment like a good sub.

And always remember, sometimes she just wants to “punish” you for the sake of punishing you!

8. Bowing is very important

Showing respect to your dom/superior is very important! And one of the best ways to show your respect and devotion to her is to bow and/or kneel.

Being a submissive means you will likely be on your knees or “beneath” her in some physical manner.

As a result, you better get used to it!

This could include things like: bowing before you enter a room with her.

Kneeling before her for long periods of time. Or kissing her feet from your knees…maybe even in public!

P.S. for more ideas on having your slave kneel, check out this blog post!

9. Eating pussy is a privilege not a right

Remember, as a submissive or cuckold you please your partner with your tongue.

But it is a privilege, NOT a right to eat pussy.

Always be grateful for what she allows you do for her. And remember to practice your pussy eating skills as much as possible!

Further, always do your best to please her because you never know when she might allow you to worship her divine nectar again.

Femdom Guidelines & Rules For Your FLR – Final Thoughts

Overall, being a good submissive shouldn’t be too difficult…as long as you follow this guide!

The thrill of submission is better than any drug. Reaching subspace is incredible.

So…what do you think about this list? Do you think I missed anything?

Hit reply below and let me know!