Ready to become a chastity keyholder for your partner? Or maybe you want to be an online keyholder?
Well, as Uncle Ben once said, with “with great power comes great responsibility”!
Being a chastity keyholder is a real thrill. Imagine having COMPLETE control over someone else’s genitals.
It’s fun, erotic, and just plain naughty.
So…what does it really mean to be a chastity keyholder?
Well, this blog post will discuss:
- What it entails being a chastity keyholder
- How chastity can benefit your female led relationship (FLR)
- How to use tease & denial with chastity
- Tips for being a keyholder
Alright, let’s get started 🙂
Contents
What Is A Chastity Keyholder?
A chastity keyholder is simple. As the name suggests, you will be holding the chastity key to your sub’s/slave’s chastity device.
A chastity device is a sex toy that covers a man’s penis and balls so that it is very hard (pun intended) to get hard, stroke/masturbate, and even orgasm.
Many couples use chastity in their relationship for:
- Excitement in their sex lives
- Something kinky and non-traditional as vanilla sex can get boring after a while
- Experiencing power exchange and re-ignite their sex lives.
Why Is Chastity Keyholding Great For Your FLR?
So…why is chastity so great for your relationship?
First, denial makes the eventual sex so much more intense.
Think about it as foreplay. Denying your partner over and over again and then finally having sex is like a long dormant volcano ready to explode.
It really does make your sex SO much more amazing.
Second, the power exchange really changes things up in the relationship.
Sometimes it’s boring to do just plain vanilla sex to be honest. That’s why you need to mix things up!
Many men are actually secretly submissive too (even if they act like they aren’t).
Imagine you’re a big boss at work. After 8 – 10 hour days, coming home and being dominated really helps relieve that stress.
Practicing Denial With Chastity
So…what happens after you lock your partner in chastity?
Well, it is something people ask me all the time.
Well, you’ll be glad to know that the fun ONLY begins when you lock your partner in chastity!
Chastity and the FLR opens the door to explore a lot of different fetishes, kinks, and a new sexual landscape.
For example, you can try:
- Tease and denial
- Orgasm control
- Edging play
- Ruined orgasms
- Post orgasm play
- …and much more!
If you want some fun ideas in each of these categories, check out these blog posts!
Tips For Becoming A Keyholder
So, you are interested in keyholding now with your partner?
Well, here are some tips to get you started.
The first important thing when it comes to keyholding is to have a backup key. The good thing is most chastity cages come with 2 keys.
Keep one safe that you can use in an emergency.
Second, remember that YOU are in charge when it comes to the chastity lockup.
Now, obviously there are certain circumstances where you may want to unlock him (i.e. going to the airport, seeing a doctor, etc.).
However, don’t let him out just because he begs. Subs/slave need to earn their release from chastity!
Be strict and stern with your chastity sub.
And the last piece of advice I have is to wear the chastity key somewhere in public (such as around your neck or your ankle or around your wrist).
Why do this?
Well, it teases your sub/slave A LOT!
He will see the key so close but be unable to do anything…
It’s a good mind fuck 🙂
Should You Have A Chastity Contract?
When it comes to chastity (especially online keyholding), it’s really a good idea to establish the roles of both parties.
It REALLY helps ensure you are both on the same page and putting it into a contract that you sign really makes it feel real.
That’s why I always recommend couples draft up a chastity contract.
Ideally, a chastity contract will:
- Identify the parties in the contract (keyholder and slave)
- How long the lockup will be
- Potential rewards and punishments for bad behavior of the slave/sub
- And anything else you want to add in
If you are looking for a chastity contract template to use, be sure to use the one I have already written! You can download the PDF version of the chastity contract here.
Does Chastity Mean No Sex?
One question that naturally comes up when couples want to try chastity in their relationship is:
Does chastity mean no sex?
Well, that really depends on what you want in your relationship!
Some couples only have sex once in a while during the chastity lockup.
Meanwhile, other couples have sex, but only the woman cums before the husband/boyfriend is locked back up. Think of him as a “sex toy” at this point.
And some couples don’t have sex anymore and some actually transition into a cuckold marriage where the wife/girlfriend sleeps with other men!
So chastity can mean no sex or not…it really just depends on what your relationship is like.
Again, that’s why you should talk it over with each other so everyone is on the same page!
Chastity Keyholding In Your FLR – Final Thoughts
Overall, keyholding is a great way to spice things up in a stagnant sex life. As I always say, chastity is the key to a long and happy marriage!
Hopefully, this guide is useful for any prospective keyholder.
So readers, what do you think I missed from this list? Let me know in the comments!
Mike says
Thank you for not mentioning anything about findom or the exchange of money. This should be about power, control, obedience, and loyalty to your Mistress. Too many ’mistresses’ are scam artists who are using words like tribute, send, and findom as way to legally steal money from guys and it’s a shame because a true old school Mistress would be rolling. In her grave to see what a sham D/s has become!